NOW i know how you feel.

People answer you with honest answers once in a lifetime, and you stand there dumbstruck not knowing how to say you are sorry for what they have just experienced or simply give the immediate response of " shame man" or " I could not imagine how difficult that must be".


The truth is that YOU can imagine it, and you can analyse it and try think of the emotions that might possibly be killing them. Since you are in control of your decisions and your hopes, you choose to live by honestly never  even attempting to imagine it could happen to you. That would simple add more stress and grief to you already complicated life. 


If everyone chose to stop for a second and really think if they could feel another persons loss, i believe the world would  not be such a lonely place. There would be an unspoken empathy that we connect the broken with the pampered protected minds.  Segregation would be difficult to maintain as well as judgment or denial.


If i think about it, would i even begin to try imagine  what different situations would feel like i think i would probably fall to pieces knowing i could not fix them, redo them, rewind and make them happy instead.
We all want to cover situations up, make them look prettier, healthier. For ourselves and people.


I cant do any of that but i can choose to honestly try to imagine. Because then i am not untouchable or invisible. I am not protected by my denial and poor you , good luck.  I do not think i am better than you or stronger or constantly have to justify my actions. I am in the cross fire. I also hear the chaos and so do you.


Now if you think about it.

Connecting in some way through humility and staying mindful of the honest souls will keep you grounded. Connected. 
Or you could run for your life through  a battle field and think you will never be shot.


lets just say i stay i do both.


I guess that is how we survive.